First and foremost, I want to point out something that has taken me years to accept.
NO ONE KNOWS THE SIZE OF YOUR CLOTHING UNLESS YOU TELL THEM!!!
I know that is not a grand revelation, but it is in our heads. We think about that number on the little printed tag all too often. Same goes as that number on the scale… they don’t say anything about you other than one little piece of a description with no more value to it than 5’6″ or green eyes. In fact, they are better than those descriptives because depending on what you want to do, you can change them.
Since day one, I have been consumed by the number on that tag. And the stores that allowed that number to be the smallest. At my worst, I was an 18 in DEB store plus sizes. I have to say plus size because there was an 18 that wasn’t “plus size” and I couldn’t even get those 18s up and over my thighs. I never shopped anywhere else. Charlotte Russe and Torrid were too expensive. Lane Bryant and Dress Barn were not the clothes for a young twenty-something, newly married, and loved to go clubbing me. I dreaded the thought of walking into one of them anyway because that meant I would be judged yet again and receive a verdict yet again of a bigger size.
My judgment day came in a different way though. It was around a happy occasion. My college roommate was getting married and I was set to be one of her bridesmaids. I was terrified to walk into the little dress shop. I was terrified when I discovered that I would be on a pedestal with this sweet little old lady measuring me for the proper sizes to be ordered. The dress was a beautiful two-piece design in pastel colors. I thought to myself that maybe that would mean that I stood a chance of not standing too far out because I had a better chance of everything fitting just right.
My world stopped the moment that sweet little old lady wrote down “22” and “24”. I know that it should have made sense with my issues with the stores I shopped or didn’t shop at, but those numbers stopped the world around me. There it was. The worst thing in my mind had happened. I broke the size barrier of being “borderline” plus size.
I don’t think that stores understand the mental warfare they are playing with our body image. Sure, they put “plus size” or “bigger” girls in their ads but have you actually looked up what size a “plus size” runway/magazine model size is!?!? When America’s Top Model did a plus size season, I was in shock. They wear size SIX TO TWELVE!!!! Those women are considered “plus size”. The clothing size of the average American woman is said to be FOURTEEN. Guys, I just can’t even with this.
And can we be real about the bombshells of the past? These women were beautiful and curvy. All women are beautiful and curvy to me…even if the biggest and brightest curve is her smile. Sorry for the tangent but…smile more and show the world the best curve you have ❤️
Back to the bombshells…
Everyone looks at Marilyn first because she wore a size 12-14, but did you know that she would actually be a size 6-8 today? Marilyn and Brigitte were sex symbol’s in their day. And can we go without saying the name Sophia Loren? Or how about Elizabeth Taylor?
Now can we get real about thing… our sizes have not stopped changing and believe you me, they won’t stop because of girls like me who will only shop at that one place that sizes them the smallest. I looked up my own sizing for the way I am right now…a size 20, you guys. I am right back to that borderline all over again. I just can’t. This is just so many ways of wrong. I just can’t even.
I was listening to Imperfect Courage: Live a Life of Purpose by Leaving Comfort and Going Scared by Jessica Honegger and heard the best thing regarding our sizes I have ever heard. You, my friend, and I are SIZE PERFECT!! You read that right. Perfect. Nothing less.
I hope you know that you, my friend, are more than that tag inside your clothing. You are more than that number on the scale. You shine!
Now, take your best curve out for the day and forget all the “standard sizes”! They do not fit our bigger than life personalities and hearts.
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If you are curious about vanity sizing too, check out https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/wonk/wp/2015/08/11/the-absurdity-of-womens-clothing-sizes-in-one-chart/?utm_term=.6991a21fbb8d